Why we fail to keep our New Year's resolutions

New Year traditionally is a time when people reflect on their lives and think about positive changes they would like to make. You might resolve to lose weight or eat more healthily. Perhaps you’re considering a new career. You might wish to become more assertive or find ways to reduce stress or anxiety. Or you might want to achieve a better work/life balance. Some people know exactly what they wish to change. For others, it may be a more general sense that something in their life needs to change but are not sure exactly what that might be. 

The fresh start and focus of a new year can spur us on to make these changes. However all too often, we set unrealistic goals and find ourselves unable to get started or sustain these well-intentioned changes. In some cases, the changes might seem so daunting, it might be difficult to even know where to start. This can lead to a sense of failure, disappointment and self-criticism, all of which can have a negative impact on our self-worth and mental health. According to the Mental Health Foundation, 80% of us fail to achieve the new year’s resolutions we make.

 Counselling can help you explore your motivation for these changes. It can support you to develop a plan of how to set meaningful and realistic goals. It can also help you understand where you might fall down or unconsciously sabotage your own efforts.

A trained counsellor can also help you discover the reasons why you engage in the habits that you want to stop. Habits are often formed as a self-support mechanism. It’s important to develop awareness of how these habits are supporting us so that we can employ alternative strategies.

 I offer a free 20-minute telephone consultation to help you explore how counselling can support you to make significant changes in your life. It’s an opportunity for you to find out more about my approach and decide of you’d like to work with me. To arrange a call, you’re welcome to call or text me on 07544 126779, or email me.